"Not in the clamor of the crowded street, not in the shouts and plaudits of the throng, BUT, in ourselves, are TRYumph and defeat" ~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.
I have just had the most incredible "WHY DIDN'T I SEE THIS ALL ALONG?!?" moments. Something so simple, that I offer unconditionally to others and that I raise my children to believe. YET - here I have been, living my merry little life without the benefit of this amazing concept working for me, in my own personal day to day living.
Of what am I insanely raving about now you ask???? The most precious of life's gifts that we can extend to ourselves and others - the gift of SELF-ACCEPTANCE.
I can hear a few of you mumbling is that it???! And already reaching to click away...BUT hold it! Hang with me for a few more moments and maybe you too can wake up tomorrow with a slightly different view on an old tried and tested topic.
Robert Holden writes "At any given moment you are either ACCEPTING yourself or REJECTING yourself..this means you often say NO to yourself. No to your real desires. No to having any needs. No to stopping and relaxing. No to making time for yourself. No to letting yourself be helped and No to loving yourself more."
Robert - ya killing me here! Stop reading my journal and pick on someone else. PAUSE....get over myself and scream HECK YES!!! I just had never quite thought of it THAT way. I had brushed the feelings away with concepts of 'a time and a season for all things', 'I'm a busy single Mum', excuses, reasons, justifications all covered up in a smokey haze of rejection of ME!
He follows up that face-slapping inspiration with another wham...OHHHHH!
"Why not give up working so hard at self-improvement and see what a little self-acceptance does for you - GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK!"
A break?!?! What busy parent wouldn't want one of those? Raise your hand with me and scream YES PLEASE. BUT hang about...what if the break isn't so literal? What if we can feel renewed, refreshed, revived daily by just learning the art of true Self-Acceptance?
Maybe now would be a good time to clarify his meanings between these two phrases. His definition of self-acceptance is heart-warming for sure! "Being aware that you are whole, innately good, loveable just as you are and endowed with god-given talents and qualities to share with the world" Wouldn't it be amazing to feel this, to believe this for more than a fleeting moment in a day?? The self-improvement concept he reminds us, starts from a belief that something is lacking in us. Do you, like me, fill your days up with thoughts of what is lacking in you????
And then the next knock-out Tyson punch line is delivered...
"No amount of self-improvement can make up for any lack of self-acceptance"
So I can paint my toes a pretty colour. Get a great new haircut. Buy that way-out-of-my-budget pair of sexy shoes and still that empty feeling remains. Because it seems in doing so we, and most definately I, am covering up a lack of acceptance in myself with moments of self-improvement.
"A small business owner once said; I have 100 percent TRUST: 40% TRUST in FEAR, 30% TRUST in SELFDOUBT, 20% TRUST in CERTAIN FAILURE; 9% TRUST in SOMETHING GOING WRONG, & 1% TRUST in LOTS OF HOPE!" - Unknown
What a wonderful reminder that it may not be so much that we have TRUST but what we put our TRUST in!? On any given day I can honestly find myself running the gauntlet of that TRUST scale. As different situations occur those percentages scream for attention swaying me from the desired objective of HOPE. Self-Doubt is without a doubt MY biggest cheerleader. Even admitting that ticks me off!!
Surely having more Self-Acceptance would increase our TRUST levels. "The more you accept yourself, the more you trust your innate goodness, wise heart and natural intuition" ~ Robert Holden
Of course there was also a little quiz that invited you to be as honest as possible to get the most accurate of readings on your current self-acceptance levels. My result?
"Self-Acceptance is like a miracle ingredient that helps you grow more fully into your true self. It activates the law of attraction. The more you accept yourself, the more abundant you feel and the richer your life becomes. It's time to really go for it!"
On reading this result I am instantly reminded of a lunchtime conversation with the girls today - LDS Singles....mmmmmm, Maybe :) Or maybe it really is time to grow up, not be afraid of looking at my naked self in the mirror, embracing the well-earned laughter lines and putting on my big girl panties and dealing with it!
♫I am woman hear me ROAR!♫